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The first meal

Hard at work in the kitchen...

Hard at work in the kitchen…

The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, apparently, but what they don’t tell you is what to cook in order to get his stomach, ergo his heart, to fall in love with you.

This was my quandary after The Surfing Yogi invited himself over to my place for dinner.

What on earth was I going to cook?

Some years back while on holidays with some friends the question was asked over dinner: what is your go-to meal when you’re trying to impress a new love interest? The answers varied from mushroom risotto (my contribution) to teriyaki salmon and a salad (Miss J’s thoughts) to, er, flambé banana from our thoroughly outrageous friend LvL, a man who also claims his sweet-smelling forearms are his secret weapon. To be honest, LvL probably deserves a blog of his own. Also, FYI, his forearms do smell really good.

I don’t know what I was thinking with mushroom risotto. Too much stirring and fussing! And I just don’t have the panache to attempt flambé banana. Salmon isn’t a bad shout out but it’s more a summer meal and we are in the dead of winter.

So what else could I cook to ensure this first meal didn’t turn into a last supper?

Fabulous Kiwi Friend suggested something simple. “He will love whatever you cook,” she added. (This comment is exactly why she is so fabulous.)

A Thousand Dates the Younger suggested something with “fresh herbs”. She added: “Perhaps a nice Thai beef salad. But fresh herbs definitely.” I never knew how strongly she felt about fresh herbs.

Mrs S offered style as well as cooking tips. “Something Thai, that’s not too fancy but shows you put in effort and can work your way around a few interesting ingredients,” she advised.

“You should wear a dress, apron and no kickers… Just kidding. Or not.”

In the end, I took all of their suggestions (although opted for jeans, no apron and fancy knickers) and accepted The Matchmaker’s offer of her secret Thai green curry recipe. Simple – tick. Fresh herbs – tick. Thai – tick. Not too fancy but shows my range – tick.

The assessment of my cooking from The Surfing Yogi? Tick.

The assessment of the night from your scribe? Tick.

What’s your go-to dish? Share your romance-guaranteed meal options below.

Photo credit: SportSuburban


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5 thoughts on “The first meal

  1. Very interesting piece =). I’ll contribute bacon meatloaf with avocado mashed potatoes and sautéed green beans. Super easy, because you can finish cooking it 15 minutes before your date shows.

    Posted by Peeksi | July 8, 2014, 1:12 am
  2. HAHA… what’s not to love about FRESH HERBS? it’s not so much the herbs I am in love with – but more their ability to make a simple bland meal taste really really exceptional and fancy – with very little effort #worksmarternotharder #gettheherbsin – A thousand dates the Younger!

    Posted by Rex | July 16, 2014, 1:32 pm
  3. When you first start dating, the stage you are in is when the guy is sexually interested in you. He is not interested to be impressed with food, contrary to your belief. In fact “the dinner” is simply an excuse to be close to the bedroom. So when you first start dating, it’s best to boil a hot dog, then cut it into tiny pieces, and arrange it beautifully around the plate, pretending you are serving a delicacy. I would also take celery and chop it in the middle. Then, put the party forks in – those are either tiny forks or toothpicks with a flag. Minimal effort. Why? Because anything more is excessive! You are the main reason he came so focus on you! Also men not need be spoiled this early on. Where I am going with this? He should be trying to impress YOU, not the other way around. Women who try to impress men are not going to be respected.

    Posted by Angel | September 21, 2014, 12:22 pm

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